How do I know when I should reach out?

We are constantly meeting new people and wondering if they will become our new friends. Life isn’t as structured as it was in high school and as we become adults, it becomes increasing difficult to manage our free time and to figure out where we fit in. If you’re here, you’ve probably reached a point where you have to navigate your day-to-day job, personal well being, fitness and possibly even starting a new business. It can be easy to feel overwhelmed or to sometimes wonder to yourself,“Do I really belong here?”

These kinds of thoughts and feelings are normal during this and other eventful transitions. Everyone goes through them, but they get better with time, as you get adjusted. It is important to not let these feelings get in the way of making friends and reaching out to people who might be a source of support to you. By building connections and with time you will feel more and more connected.

How do I know when I should reach out?

We developed a 3 step approach to help you figure out or plan when you might need a little extra boost. You’ll need to reflect on what’s difficult or stressful, do a little self evaluation and plan to reach out.

  1. Reflect

    Take some time to reflect on some of the experiences you have had so far, during the last year, or just your new business journey. Think about the experiences and challenges you have experienced. Think about what has been difficult or challenging for you. You can think about your experiences meeting colleagues, making friends, finding a mentor, or adjusting to a new living situation. Don’t forget to take note on how some of these difficulties and challenges have begun to improve with time.

  2. Self-Evaluate

    Identify your social support needs. What are some specific times when it would be helpful to reach out to someone for support? Think of specific or broad scenarios like the ones below. Include examples of who you can reach out for each point and if you don’t have someone, checkout out some articles to help you find a mentor.

    • If you lack the professional experience or knowledge

    • If you’re feeling overwhelmed

    • If you’re unsure of legal regulations or policies

    • If you need someone to bounce ideas on

  3. Plan to reach-out

Take some time to think about how you will let these people know if you need support from them or if you have questions for them.

Pro Tip

Keep in touch with your formal and informal mentors, or people who have made themselves available to you. We understand there are some challenges or obstacles associated with not being able to be in contact regularly with your network. But try your best anyways!